I'm happy for all of you who are surrounded by people you love for the holiday. For those who aren't, you've got my sympathies. Too many people are reminded of their losses at this time of year while inundated by Christmas specials. If you're missing someone, try to think grateful thoughts of how you were happy to have that person in your life in the first place. Remember the happy times.
These are my goals. I'm not always successful at it, but I try to be an optimistic, grateful person. Life is better when we choose to be happy, and I do think we have some choice about it. I saw a kid smash his toy because he didn't get what he wanted. That meant he didn't get what his ideal toy, plus didn't have the second best toy either. Even as a child, I knew that was stupid. Make do. Eat a burned cookie and laugh. A good life isn't necessarily picture perfect.
2016 wasn't the best year for me. I'm looking forward to the next one, even while I fear for the future with politics being what they are in the US. Feel free to discuss that over the holiday table and see if any of the dishes get dumped over someone's head during dinner. Make sure you take a picture. That will make everyone else happier for years to come.
Sis1 went through a period of time when she dyed food green, all sorts of food that weren't intended to be green. I hit the limit at a giant bowl of mashed potatoes. Remembering green potatoes in her hair still makes me smile. I'd almost like to see another bowl of green potatoes.
Let's face it, if holidays weren't stressful and filled with inappropriateness, we wouldn't be able to laugh so hard at the sitcoms and movies featuring these kinds of special moments. Holidays are a reminder to all of us to exercise tolerance and/or keep our sense of humor. If your people need some help getting into the mood, you can add alcohol or maybe bring up religion. I can come up with more ideas for you if necessary, but I'm sure you can come up with some ideas of your own.