I
have been reminded of my blogging duties, especially as Mom said she thought I
was dead or dying. My apologies for
dropping off the web this past month. I
kept trying to write a post, but I just couldn’t find the right words to say
what I want to say. I want to yell “Don
is a bad boyfriend!”, and I’m pretty sure nobody wants to read my yelling.
Here’s the thing, I had a narcissistic husband. I didn’t know anything about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and I fell for many of his tricks. Since then, I’ve studied NPD (beyond my friends’ patience and understanding). I’m like an alcoholic who quit drinking with it. I want everybody to see the light and know the things I’ve learned. After I started my studies, Don became the US president. This really made me want to educate everyone about the dangers he poses – except one of the realities about NPD is other people really don’t want to hear it. Do you see my conundrum?
Most people know Don is a bad boyfriend. He cheated on his mistress right after his wife gave birth to their son. We all know he’s a racist and misogynist. We know he’s out for himself and hangs out with criminals. We know he breaks laws. His base forgives everything even if they say they don’t like him either.
I blamed myself for a long time during the marriage and long after my divorce. I knew I was miserable, why didn’t I leave sooner? But I valued the marriage commitment. Sometimes I believed his lies. Maybe I’m too stubborn, or too optimistic. I tried to work out our problems. I didn’t understand he didn’t want to work them out. He enjoyed fighting and making me miserable. He twisted everything around so I didn’t know which way was up, and he felt entitled to do whatever he wanted to do. Live with it.
This week it came out Don doesn’t respect soldiers wounded or killed in battle. Nobody is really surprised by this, are they? Life as we know it is threatened by climate change. Don wants to drill for oil in one of the last undisturbed places in the world. He doesn’t care about the planet, nature, or you. Take away Social Security from old people too. He doesn’t care about you. He’ll leave all of us to clean up his messes and heal our broken hearts.
My ex would do something nice every now and then. Okay, I like getting flowers or going out for dinner. See, he loves me. Doesn’t he? I’ll keep trying to work things out… but then he didn’t come home or show me respect or whatever. Don is just the same. He’ll throw his base a bone like nominating judges or giving the wealthiest people a tax break. He says that’s what you wanted so shut up.
His opponent, Joe Biden, is by all accounts a decent man with a lifetime of government experience. He and his running mate, Kamala Harris, both have centrist, moderate goals. For some people, that’s just not exciting enough. They aren’t turned on by the good man even though he’d make a better partner. They want the bad boy even if the bad boy punches them out once in a while and might end up killing all of us.
I don’t know how to convince anyone Don is a bad president. 200,000 Americans are dead from Covid-19 because he either didn’t act or encouraged risky behaviors. His actions have resulted in most Americans saying they won’t get a vaccine when it’s available because they don’t trust how it’s been developed and rushed. You know in your heart that if Don was a good leader we’d trust the vaccine. We don’t. He isn’t. Please vote responsibly.
