I should either rake leaves outside or clean house inside today. What I've actually done is watch news and play computer games. Today is supposed to be the chilliest day of the week so the housekeeping idea is gaining a little traction, and staying inside would allow me to continue my news obsession.
There's all sorts of major things going on in the greater world, but the news isn't talking much about that. It's mostly about sexual harassment. You may remember this is a topic that hits close to home since it was major factor at my last job, and most of my other jobs, and it seems people are noticing it happens to quite a few women.
I've had quite a few conversations with men lately on the topic. Some get it, as well as anyone can who isn't living it. More seem ignorant or misinformed. It doesn't occur in front of them, so they have a hard time believing it's as prevalent or serious as claimed.
One male friend asked why I thought it had happened so often to me. Because I've been single? Because I worked in a male-dominated profession? Because I'm assertive and accomplished? Because I turned down cheating coworkers for dates? As more and more women come out with their stories, I wonder if I'm not as alone as I've felt. It's part of our culture where a woman is paid and valued less than a man. This article expresses someof the issues, but it only addresses the conditioning females endure.
I've been adding up the perps in my life and I'm flabbergasted by the sheer quantity of them, and I'm not counting cat callers and ass grabbers. I've been assaulted, harassed, and discriminated against. I've suffered stalking, break-ins, window peeping, and phone calls. Some of this lasted years, and the police and other authorities were useless. And for the record, I wasn't dressed like a slut and it wasn't my fault. The perps were usually attractive and well-off. All were white.
Women forced to leave jobs due to harassment have to work their way up ladders over and over in ways men don't have to do -- which is another justification to pay women less and pass them over for promotions. Keep in mind, they climb those ladders while coping with the traumas they've been accumulating on the job, and often go home to verbally or physically abusive mates.
We need to speak up and support each other, and that includes good men who are willing to talk about the subject. Everyone needs to understand that it's going to continue because perpetrators aren't caught or prosecuted. Too many events are he said/she said without a chance of justice. But, women are finally getting believed. It's a start.
Reluctantly climbing off of my soap box where I could rant considerably longer, the leaves are calling. It's cathartic to listen to the news when perps are finally getting outed, but my lawn is orange with leaves. Fresh air and exercise feels like it's winning over housekeeping. This is older art, done at another job where I was harassed and discriminated against, where my boss exposed himself, where his female boss laughed it off as "boys will be boys"... ohmmm... yeah, fresh air, exercise, happy thoughts!