This has been a very current concern for me this week because my office is downsizing space and I had to move my office into a large, busy room (with 30 yrs of hoarding). Adding to my concerns, this room was the domain of a very nice woman who has been getting her hours cut. I really, really didn't want to add to her unhappiness and I have been sleepless with worries about how to make the space work for everybody. I sternly kept telling myself not to sacrifice myself in office design, but so dreaded the disappointment or tears when my coworker found herself shoved in a dark corner.
The construction leader yelled at me to vacate the other office immediately or he'd put all my stuff in storage, despite the fact that there wasn't room to turn around in the other room. It was jammed as we tried to take things out of it to make space for me. That super feeler paper clearly says I don't respond well to raised voices. Then I wrenched my shoulder. Yeah, this week sucked.
But, I managed to situate both myself and my coworker by the windows, and she's thrilled with the new arrangement. I'm not happy to lose my privacy, but I feel like it's the best I can do. Our desks face each other, and she chattered happily while drills and saws echoed through the wall in my previous sanctuary.
...Carefully arrange bird skull, feathers, and nest on my shelf...
For my facebook friends who saw that one of the priests gave me blanket absolution for swearing, well, can you see why? Someone told the construction leader to lay off. His workers gave me a hand with some things behind his back. A coworker helped figure out how to make the space work. Someone gave me a shot of bourbon. I don't approve of drinking at work, but I felt gratitude and the warmth of kindness spread through my bloodstream. Another coworker loaned me a book by David Sedaris which actually made me laugh out loud while cuddling my puppy in our cocoon at home.
It's a moment in time, but it shows people in their true form. There was no need for yelling and adding to the stress of things. One person behaved badly, but all the other people either stayed out of the way or helped. Sometimes it's hard to remember percentages, but small acts of kindness go a long way. When multiple people do them they add up to a larger quantity of kindness.
We can choose whether our experiences are positive or negative based on which people we focus on. When we choose our side, it effects everyone else. We either gripe and complain, or we smile and pat an arm in sympathy. We all have the power to effect someone else's life. Choose to make their lives better.
|Just to show you a better sense of scale|