Last night I dreamt about "adventure" and remembered walking in a South Carolina plantation garden. I am delicate in the sun, so I had on a big, floppy hat and a long, loose skirt while everyone else was dressed in Ugly American summer wear. That's too-tight tank tops with lewd slogans and too-tight shorts.
There was a guy in a holey shirt that had faded a light salmon. I suppose the shirt started out red? I couldn't look away from the curly blonde fur on his shoulders while he couldn't bother to check his unruly kids. His wife's chest oozed around all the edges. I must've looked like another flower in the garden by comparison.
We all face moments of opportunities gained or lost. Often those moments are as ephemeral as catching a falling leaf in the breeze. I think most of the time we don't recognize the chance or the choice, but sometimes we do. Not taking that chance in the moment is the choice of a different future. Too often, the reason we don't take a risk is because of misguided inhibitions and fear.
Reclaiming Conversation: ThePower of Talk in the Digital Age. Psychologist author, Sherry Turkle, has researched what's happening with people who are glued to their devices. People text instead of talking face to face, and have lost the ability to empathize. They have so many fears, they avoid personal interactions. How many opportunities are lost because they're hiding behind their phones?
I'm upset that people don't know how to sit down and have a cup of tea with a friend for an afternoon or how to actually get together meaningfully in a romantic relationship. I share lunch with the ladies in my office every day, and we talk about stuff. We like each other, suffer each other's quirks, and support each other. This stuff matters, and people need to put down their phones and notice that it matters.
I'm glad I drove to SC to walk in a plantation garden. I regret not asking that man to join me for lunch. I'm glad I'm a responsible worker. I regret giving too much of my life to jobs. All of these little choices end up being the sum of our lives.
I'm trying to think of ideas for my next adventure -- to go somewhere, do something new, expand my life in some way. Maybe I'll actually fill out the paperwork for a passport? Take a class or say "hi" to the next guy who looks at me? Do you have any suggestions?
I'm usually terrible at remembering to show works in progress (WIP). I thought I'd try to remember to show you this piece as I go along. This is on a 3' x 12" canvas that my buddy Korki gave me. Thanks!