My guitar has butterflies. This pleases me. I hope my butterflies don't die in the case from neglect. Guitars sound better when they're actually played instead of propped in a corner gathering dust. I'm not a great player, but I'm pretty sure my guitar would prefer inexpert attention than none at all.
Let me apologize again for presidential insults of people and countries with pigment, US allies, or geez, everybody who isn't blonde and Norwegian this week. What happened to 1960s "make love not war" ideals sung around campfires? I leaked tears when I listened to this Seeker's version. I'd like to blame that on menopausal hormones, but I'm just in touch with an earnest wish for a better world. We should all sing by more campfires.
I refuse to give up my idealism. We each make the world better with every kind action and word, and even the negatives around us are a chance to learn and make things right. For instance, this week I've learned the continent of Africa is thriving. It's far more than famine and AIDS. Haiti is more than a hurricane disaster zone. 45's "s***hole" comments pushed the media to tell us some positives for a change. Yay! Tell us more!
I've complained about public tv's seemingly endless shows about multiculturalism. It feels racist to complain, but I feel like they're beating me with a stick about an issue with which I'm already agreeable. Stop lecturing me! It's like sad puppies or starving children charity ads. I care about puppies and children, but I'd much rather see something about how a donation results in happy, healthy children/puppies. Stop miring us in negatives. Teach us about positives. Teach us how to get to the positives.
The truth is, we're attracted to negatives. A traumatic, abusive bond with someone can be far more enduring than a loving relationship, but time with an abuser is time that wasn't spent with someone loving. Lately I've noticed on my antenna tv there are 2 stations devoted to murder 24 hrs/day, not to mention the other stations' murder shows. I'm sure cable tv must be far worse. We're rapt with attention over disasters, abuse, and strife, and media outlets will continue to offer this kind of thing because it keeps our viewership better than "good" subjects. It takes effort maintaining positivity in a negative world, but I'm convinced it's worth the effort because surrounding ourselves with good people and experiences leads to happier lives for everyone.
I met a young woman outside a store where we were both waiting. We discovered we shared a birthday that day. I told her she was pretty. She was taken aback that I'd say something nice, and then worried I was hitting on her. I laughed and said I like boys. We chatted and laughed some more for maybe 15 minutes before we left in different directions, never to see each other again, but with positive memories.
It was such a simple thing. She was pretty, and nice too. She was pleasant to talk with when I was burning time. One small action that didn't cost me anything for a young, black woman who told me she needed a kind word that day. My bit for race relations might be a helpful memory for her when she listens to racist comments.
Haters get more coverage than the majority of people who don't share those views. What if all of us who care about others make more effort to say nice things to each other? Open doors, treat people like people, express some curiosity about them? Listen to their stories, or just smile?